I met a Romanian girl through a webcam site a few weeks ago. I talked with her on the site for a long time and we got on really well - like really well - you can see a lot in people's facial expressions and body language on a cam and it was all good. Really good. Then she surprised me and took a big risk by asking me for my phone number and calling me (this is expressly forbidden by the rules of the sites btw).
We've talked a very great amount since, on msn, via text, on the phone, on email. I have her full name and address. I have her husband's name, and her brother's. I know (albeit a little belatedly) she is married, and she cried and cried like you would not believe when she told me. There is no way you can cry for hours hard like that without meaning it.
She is moody, a real bitch sometimes, we argue, we make up, we are loving and sexy and seem to have something special by way of a chemistry. She is exciting. When we connect we connect really well and when times have been hard she has suggested that the time is wrong for us both and that we should just get on with our lives, but then said her life was different since I appeared in it, and she couldn't stop. And despite the lack of sense of it all, nor could I.
She says she loves me, or whatever you can feel for someone you've never met. We are quite upfront about having feelings you can't explain for someone you only know on the internet and phone. I never would have believed I could feel the way I do about someone I have not met in the flesh. And if I can feel this way, why not her too?
She calls me when her husband is around (he doesn't speak English) but she tells me he's there and it's only ever general chat. Anything more romantic is when she is alone, which she is quite a lot as she works long hours on the webcam site. She tells me he doesn't care if she talks to her long-standing clients on the phone and he trusts her 100%. And that he knows that she likes me but that I live far away and she is married so nothing is going to happen. Also that their marriage is not great, but she has never cheated on him and has to respect him. She has lived in western europe and wants to live in the west in the long term.
But I am a sceptic and I'm looking for the catch. Well apart from the marriage bit, obviously. Initially I wondered whether it was about getting minutes in her chatroom, but we talk on free IM when she's working so it can't be that. And she spends what for a Romanian must be a bundle of cash on text messages to me.
She has always said she doesn't want anything from me and knows about the reputation Romanians have in the world, yet yesterday she asked me for money for the 1st time. But not with the usual sob story - she wants to buy something nice for herself...!! I don't know whether she was serious or whether it was some kind of test/joke - she likes to play games - and I told her she would never get money out of me. We talked online for several hours after that but she brought it up again on the phone today and I asked directly whether she really wanted money from me, and she said no (though I expect if I sent her some she would accept it and spend it quite happily!).
She wants to meet, but because she is married and can't get away for more than a night or so she wants it to be in Romania, and preferably in her home town. I have said no as I'm not convinced her husband isn't in on all of it and I have this vision of her husband and several friends turning up at whatever hotel and me not coming back...
I know all the cam sites she works for and could probably get her sacked from the lot with a few emails to the site owners. I could also turn up or write to her husband and send him every email I have ever received from her, especially the ones where she says unpleasant things about him. So if it is a scam she is taking one hell of a chance.
I have also been through every scammer site I can find and have turned up nothing from name, phone number, email address, city, anything. Google only tells me what I already knew, i.e. that there is a record of the marriage. Nothing else.
I realise I'm probably asking in the wrong place for a 'she really does love you' answer, like turkeys voting for Christmas I guess. But some other perspectives on what the hell is going on would be great.
TIA
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