Hello Forum,
I am a newbie, and cautious, but not a victim of the webcam or dating services. No I learned the hard way of having a nervous breakdown over a Brazilian stripper, living here in NJ, 6 months into a dysfunctional relationships, she tells me she is married , that was 6 years ago. Have avoided strip clubs for the past 5 years and went back to church.
Well for the past 5 years I had been hoping I would've met somebody...as you guessed no. At 48, it is not easy, even though I am in the best shape of my life, finding attractive women to have a friendship/relationship has been very difficult. None at my gym, church, and forget about bars, not into that scene anymore.
I met "Eva" on MFC, yes she is beautiful, she is a passionate, and wears her heart on her sleeve. If she likes you, she lets you know, but if not she'll tell you to F - off. And what attracted me to her was her humor. And also when someone said how beautiful she was, she thanked GOD. I have not met too many that acknowledge God anymore. After a week of being part of a chat group, I joked with her that I'm coming to Bucharest and I'm staying with her...she freaked out...No No No, I'm here to make money not friends. So she was being honest, and 5 minutes went by then she pm'd and explained her situation.
Then she told me her real name, and a little about herself. Two weeks later she caught me in another room with another girl. At first she acted indifferent, but I knew this hurt her, and she eventually told me. She asked me why I never asked her for private show, I told never, because there is a difference between lust and respect. She never uses her sexuality to keep me interested. Anyway I decided to send her a few things mailed from here, total fiasco because she had to pay VAT tax? It cost her money, she was not happy, and let me know, but for some reason I did not answer her in anger, and as the day wore on she emailed how happy she was with everything. She also asked for something I wore all the time? I sent her my Dallas Cowboys jersey...maybe she'll have better luck with it, than I do.
I also sent her flowers for Valentine's Day, this put her over the top, she said she never got flowers from anybody? As time has passed, she has opened up more and more with me, she loves animals and is totally heartbroken her cat is missing or dead, her brother had a head injury in an accident and hates her mother, and her mother needs eye surgery for glaucoma, and she feel responsible for the welfare for her entire family. She has never asked me for money, and when I asked her if I could send her money for her mom,she forbid me.
Normally if I was doing the wrong thing, my subconscious would tell me, or my dreams would be strange, nightmares, etc...nothing. And I pray about this relationship/friendship, that I do the right thing. She also told me she goes to church every sunday with her mom. I have no problem sending her money for her mom, but before I might do this, another set of eyes, or any additional advice would be greatly appreciated.
After taking the time to read the entire thread...Laura is a scammer too. Fortunately for me, there is no heartache, or love lost, just a few hundred bucks...I got off cheap compared to some other folks. Something tells me that her angry outbursts with me, were very revealing, I think unconsciously she deliberately sabotaged our relationship, there could've been a friendship, but that is gone now. I have no trust in her...end of story. I did stress faith, and the importance of love in our lives, and how important God is to me. And whatever money I sent to her is between her and Him, she will have to make accountability for what she says and does. And I'm sure she has a boyfriend too.
Well at the end of the day, I'd rather be me, than her. Who knows, maybe the Holy Spirit will work on her and the rest of us too.
Thank you,
Peach
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