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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Wed Oct 28, 2009 8:11 pm 
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I agree with Shawn.... you "will" get past this.... I too had this very same experience that you have had only two years ago.... we emailed, phoned and made all kinds of plans we even planned a wedding.... told me everything I wanted to hear and said all the right things so that I would believe every word and fall head over heels.... and then after an entire year of this, I found out he was a scammer..... that hurt like hell so I know exactly what you are feeling and it's wrong for another to play with someones emotions like that and not give a damn that they are really seriously hurting that person.... they just don't care who they hurt or how. It took me time to get over that so called "relationship" but that also taught me to never get involved that way with someone from another country again as I couldn't bear to go thru that pain again. You really will get past this.... you are only 30 years old and still have a long way to go to find someone to fall in love with.... take your time, it will happen. Life throws us all curve balls from time to time.... it's how we deal with them that matters. You sound like a very talented person and I think you should concetrate on that talent and see where it can take you.... look into the different areas of art and graphics as this is a booming industry and "designers" are in big demand.... work on that for now and don't spend all of your time trying to find love, just keep your heart open and it will find you.


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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
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hello there...i want to say first that obviously i have not killed myself and i really dont expect to anymore i am still in alot of pain over this i have been up for two days just crying like a little baby and i dont really know when i will start feeling better..but i wanted to say thanks again for showing concern it really means alot to me i dont have anybody and it is nice to know that there r people out there who will give a complete stranger some kind words of encouragement..thank you....i really dont know what i will do now..lol..i havent a job or a place to live i have been sleeping on the floor of my friends apartment for 5 months now and i think it is time to move on..im looking in on some help from the government for living arangments and i already have a food card from them so i should be ok...this really is hard for me because i am a weak romantic fool..lol...and i guess i am an easy target for these kinds of things...im really sorry to u and all of these people who fall victom to these scams it is a very hard thing for us people with big hearts...i told this girl yesterday that it is over and she keeps calling me and writing me emails but i have stopped answering the phone and ive stopped reading her emails..it is too painfull...i swear the nerve of these people...anyways i wanted to at least let u know that i didnt kill myself i feel u deserve to not think abt some poor sob who u tried to help would do that so im telling u that i will not and ur kind words really do help me..i tried to talk to a couple of people on two other blogs abt this stuff but they just made fun of me everytime i tried to write about my situation i really didnt understand that but whatever...u guys on here gave me some love even if u think im corny and u r just doing ur job its cool i still appreciate it...anyways thanks again and please take care of yourselves......michael


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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Thu Oct 29, 2009 7:22 pm 
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If you need to talk just let us know.... we're always here to help.


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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Sat Oct 31, 2009 1:55 pm 
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dangerfield30
I was SO HAPPY to see a post from you!

As scam victims, we can relate to how you are feeling. I cried for days also, and my scam was only the loss of money, not the loss of a relationship.

Like ximora said . . . we are here for you . . . for support, a shoulder to cry on, a place to vent your frustrations . . . whatever you need. That is the reason that this site was started. Once I spoke out about being a scam victim I found so many others who had been through the same thing and I found some comfort in knowing I was not alone. And now WE can offer that same hope and comfort to you . . . we know it does get better because we have been there and we have come out stronger.

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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 4:38 am 
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Dear Dangerfield,

Again, I would go with the advice given. Trust your instincts and ask for a lot of proof. Ask questions! See how she answers. If you need to call emergency services the number is 112 here and not 911.


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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Mon May 31, 2010 10:40 am 
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I am currently in Romania getting set to head back to the usa. I got scammed by someone who I thought loved me. I feel pretty badly right now. I am very heart broken and have been feeling unwell. I feel stupid and ugly and horrible. I got used very badly and threw away some money. It is a long story and a little different from the typical scammers stories I have read on the internet. But this woman was really vile, her whole family lied to me. I have been feeling unwell as a result of how sick this whole event has been for me. She was very legitimate and I believed that she was really interested in me. Her picture was real and she seemed like a nice girl. But she was full of lies. I met her on the dating partners site for Romania. However she wanted to switch to Yahoo messenger soon after. She claimed that it was easier to talk that way.

She lied to me and manipulated me. I traveled to Bucharest. I really liked her a lot. And I thought everything was fine. But over the past few weeks she became more and more distant. I was at her house. I woke up Sunday and her mom was like you are leaving here now. I was engaged to this girl. Anyhow, to make a long
story short, her parents made some demands on me. And asked for money, this was over the course of a few weeks. I'd been helping them out with stuff all along with small things. It seemed normal. But the demands became more detailed, like, "you give me €6000 for a new roof for this house. You give us $800 for her university tuition right now! At one point I was asked to pay their entire family dept. Stuff like that. I was like, I can help you all. I agreed to help over time.  I loved her and believed in the girl and her family. I offered her a chance to one day live in the usa if she wanted to. For her, her family. I really believed in this girl and I loved her. I really cared about her.  I was tricked to this hotel. After I paid the bill, my girl gave me my ring back and just walked away. Didn't say anything. She just left. I realized that I was being ditched.
Even though prior to ending up there she told me that everything was fine. She was such a good actress. She lied so much.

It broke my heart a lot. I had been talking with her for almost year before I came over. All of the time I kept asking her if everything was okay whenever she seemed distant and she just lied to me, to my face. She claimed that everything was fine. Saying things that weren't true. It was all lies. Her and her ma just wanted money out of me. It was all just lies, I doubt if she even loved me. She was so cold at times and weird.

I am sitting here near the airport in this hotel room right now just trying to keep myself level headed. I feel really, really bad. I keep asking myself, did I do anything wrong. But it isnt right to make demands for money on people like that. If she really loved me why did she treat me like this? Why would she hurt me in this way. Why would she be this way with me.

In my career I had plans of doing all kinds of stuff in Bucharest. I tried to contact the people at a few media spaces but they never replied. Every time I tried to set up a time to go down to the spaces in person my girl kept talking me out of it. She totally didn't care about my career stuff. Everything was always about her. So ego driven. She put down my stuff and her mom totally ripped on me. I showed her reviews out of the known periodicals, very important hard earned stuff I have done and she like just flipped it off like it was nothing. Nothing was ever good enough. She dismissed everything I showed her and she kept the attitude like I was a nothing or something.  This was a big red flag but I ignored it and tried to tell myself that maybe she was tired or something. But the fact is that she didn't care about me or my feelings. She just echoed whatever her mom wanted.

To add more, yesterday, she (my girl and her mom) came back to the hotel.  Her mother ran past hotel officials here and tried to come into my room. The hotel people had to restrain her. She had stuff of mine (a new ipod I gave my girl, a t-shirt ..etc) , When I asked for it back. She would not give it to me. Yet she brought it back to the hotel?!? She just stood there with the bag yelling. I am very upset to say the least. The hotel official had to block the door to keep her from coming in and she made a huge scene. I told my girl to just leave me alone. I sent an email to her prior threatening to report them. This is why I think she returned with my stuff. All of the time at her place my girl wa worried about who I was talking to on the phone or emailing. She would ask me who are you talking to. She also wanted to see the emails. In her pictures and in person, her eyes were so dark. Something always bothered me about her eyes. They weren't honest. She could never look at me directly.

I didn't do anything to cause this. Other than not giving her or her mom $$$£££ on the spot. I feel bad and stupid for falling for this. I feel so very alone. I feel very hopeless right now. All of the time wasted on this. And my emotions, she lied to me so much.

I thought about contacting the usa Embassy here but I don’t know. I am leaving Bucharest very soon.
I know that men are not supposed to cry but it is just so great, all of this hurt right now. It really really hurts so much, I just wish it would stop.


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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Tue Jun 01, 2010 10:42 pm 
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wheeljack, I am so sorry to read everything you have gone through. None of it is your fault. These types of people are very cold hearted. You can go to http://groups.yahoo.com/group/romancescams/ to received help and support. I am glad you were not murdered. I have read stories about scammers who have killed their victims.

Could you please post some of the emails and pics on this site? This will help other victims and protential victims. Another thing you can do is to sign the petition for Scam Education and Awareness Programs. The link is in the siggy line of the Admin. I tried to post the link here but can not get it to work correctly.

Best of luck to you.

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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Sat Jun 12, 2010 6:07 pm 
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Thank you for your support. I am having a very difficult time now. I am trying to get through. I talked to julia at the forum.

I just feel so angry and ugly and stupid right now. I feel embarrassed too about all of this. It really hurts.
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I really loved her but she lied to me. At first she seemed so genuine but she later changed. i just can't believe she would hurt me like this. i am having a really hard time with trusting women. Any of them. I just feel like the measure of a man is $$$$. Honesty, loyalty seem to mean nothing. All my life i have been told that a man's value is to be found in his wallet. And for so many years I tried to prove others wrong. But look now. Who is the one alone, hopeless and now out of funds? it's me, in the end i was the fool.


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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Sun Jun 13, 2010 3:30 pm 
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Don't be so hard on yourself . . . these scammers are professional and this is all they do, so that it why they are so good at it.

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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Sun Aug 01, 2010 10:51 am 
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hello,
i live in the uk and my husband has become a victim to a romanian scam girl. he has been sending a lot of money in pounds(i found out from western union & moneygram bills to be £900 untill now , but i think its more than that). he says he is trying to help her out of poverty. i feel he has fallen for her. our marriage is almost about to break. but i still love him and want him to realise that they are cheaing him. he doesnt want to listen. he has been reading books on romania..planning to visit the country. i dont know how to convince him.
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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Sun Aug 01, 2010 11:12 am 
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Have you shown him sites like ours?

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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Sun Aug 01, 2010 3:13 pm 
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I agree with Shawn... you need to have him come and check out this site... these scammers are very good at what they do... they know all the right buttons to push and all the right things to say... in fact it may not even be a "female" that he's dealing with!


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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Mon Aug 02, 2010 11:20 am 
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yes i did show him those posts...but he says the girl is a poor girl unlike those scammers...this is a 24 yr old girl frm iasi, a student, parents in italy, brother in romania...similar story.
And this is infact a real girl. he has had many chats with her...he also calls her on her mobile.
i dont care whether our marriage works or not but just wanted him to see the reality. :(


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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Mon Aug 02, 2010 9:07 pm 
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Unfortunately some people have to learn a lesson the hard way... you can't say you didn't try... he will get burnt... it's just a matter of time.


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 Post subject: Re: Romanian Dating Scams - Have you been burnt?
PostPosted: Tue Aug 03, 2010 8:18 am 
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rose78 wrote:
And this is infact a real girl. he has had many chats with her...he also calls her on her mobile.
i dont care whether our marriage works or not but just wanted him to see the reality. :(


Chats, via text, could still be from a guy . . . and male scammers will often use a female to make a few calls for them to make the scam seem "real".

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